Hypocrite.
♥Thursday, November 18, 2010.
I suppose not practising what I preach makes me one. I make so much sense; when I give advice, when I console or practically every time except when I'm dealing with my own life. I don't know how I can manage this. I know all the right answers, the right reactions, the right way to approach and face things. The problem is not being able to execute it myself. It's not that I don't want to, but irrationality overcomes my sensibility every single time, such that I let my heart take over instead of using my head. Maybe that's why I'm weak mentally and emotionally, because I let it take a back seat most of the time.
I think I can safely admit to being one of those socially inapt teenagers who'd rather spend their time on the computer at home every day than interacting with people in real life. I'm talking to the same people as the ones I talk to face-to-face, but being online makes me feel more secure and more 'in control' of my own thoughts. I get some time to think through what I'm actually saying, well, more than I do in real life at least. I can't stand the idea of unintentionally (or intentionally) hurting others through my words, offline, at least, when I can see peoples' face and their reactions which I am pretty confident of picking up on.
That's a pretty huge problem to me, always wanting to read into other people and hoping other people can read me just as well. I don't even know what's going on in this psycho brain of mine, because I'm not sure whether I'm happier when people fail to read me or when they get surprisingly close to what I'm feeling without me saying it. I am that ironic. I guess I revel in the fact that I hold up my mask better than I would have wished I could (oh, sense the irony in this sentence itself) but that's the truth. I guess I'm masochistic?
Back to being hypocritical, I think I am one very hypocritical person. I know it. I try not to be, but I end up being one anyway. Actually that says a lot; like, am I even trying? I just let myself run on autopilot, thoughts raging and emotions flowing, until I'm not even sure I know who I am. I think I'm so reliant on this persona of mine, that I refuse to let my rational mind take over to do some sort of damage control before I harm myself or others further. I think I pretty much sound like a nutcase worthy of a trip to the psychiatrist again but that's what's in my head bulk of the time. When I am actually thinking, that is. Which makes me doubly guilty because the thinking only kicks in when things happen and the damage is already done. There's no backspace in real life, as cliched as it sounds.
And see, that is totally what I mean when I say I make so much sense, I scare myself. I know what's wrong with me and I know all the ways to set it right. I just have to throw in a bit more control than I would have cared normally and things would be closer to perfection, actually, no, just better than how it would have turned out. I hate myself so much when I throw out my rage at people for no particular reason, only to feel guilty after that. I could have just stopped myself from the negative feelings but like I keep saying, rational has no place in my mind, or my heart, because I'm never thinking when I do this kind of shit to other people who do not deserve it.
I really like these talks with myself, because I get to realise how I'm actually intellectually capable of having a mind of my own despite what my brain tells me when I try studying but nothing gets in. Yet, it's more of a love-hate relationship because I beat myself up for all the crap I do without thinking. Yes, reflection time is a time for me to go through a serious debate about whether I'm a quirky genius or a downright nutcase, and I'm getting vibes that I'm closer to the latter, because I'm nowhere near being a genius, considering how much I fail at controlling my own life.
I'm starting to like posting these thoughts here, because I like how I get to laugh at myself when I read the bullshit I write. The ridiculous rants, the language. Oh, the language. How I'd love to be able to write like people out there but my English fails me, all the time. Not like my Chinese is redeeming in any way. So I'm stuck with laughing and shaking my head when I actually go through my posts, at how crazy I sound and how ineloquent I am. Who knows why I do it any way, when I already know how I'll only manage to feel like I want to delete everything off this blog because it is so ridiculous and I am so ridiculous.
I think I like sharing on this blog, because I feel like I'm talking to no one, only to myself. I like the feeling of exposing these raw bits of emotions and feelings I don't get to show in real life. Because people don't care for them much and it's not like I want to feel naked in front of a crowd in any case they do. I'm sure the former still stands, because I know how selfish I am because I can't be bothered to give a damn about other people as well. But it may be just me, cold and unfeeling. Though I don't recall everyone around me being balls of sunshine every day. So well, I take blogging as a way of talking to myself, because I'm the one who cares the most about myself and I enjoy pretending there's actually someone who does care and reads all my posts and formulates a reply when all of it is just well, me and my imagination, which is pretty wild in a wrong way. Because it's not like being schizophrenic can make me more creative or artistic in any way.
I don't know if I like it when people read my posts. I think this is the first time I'm being so truthful about myself and my thoughts. Not literally the first time, but posts lately have turned deeper (to me at least) and show more of who I am instead of the perfect little cheery and morally upright angel I like people to see me as. Not that I'm not, just not always. I'll say outright, that I never know what people think of me. I can guess all I want, from their expressions, their body language, their speech, but they're all speculations. Fine, I'm being a self-centred bimbo going 'oh, what do you think of me?', but I'm really curious. Am I the only one? Is it just because I'm living in a society where people like speaking vaguely and going around in circles just because we can't bring ourselves to tell people what we admire them for and what faults they have? That's the vibe I keep getting, not like it's an extremely bad thing, because I know we're just scared of hurting others along the way. Or that's how I prefer to think it is.
I think I sidetrack like nobody's business. So back to whether I like it when people read what I'm writing. I imagine there'll be people who do and I am frankly surprised how much rubbish you put up with, and that's a compliment, because I don't think I can put up with half the crap I sprout. That being said, I think I like it because well, it changes my mindset that people don't care. Haha okay fuck being politically correct or subtle or humble at the very least, it changes my mindset that people don't care about me and well, it boosts my ego. So why not, right? But then again, I'm pretty much embarrassed by myself and my craziness that I dread anyone reading this and knowing me better. Actually, I don't know if people do end up knowing me better, or just getting more confused, when I don't show the same openness in real life. It says a whole lot about how much of a hermit or a loner I am, doesn't it? I'm not comfortable showing myself to others in real life but I'm totally fine exposing it to the public online. FML.
I can just start to imagine how long this post, or shit, is going to look on my blog. Glorious, glorious wall of text. I imagine no one reading it, anyway. At least that's what I do when I type so I don't get all awkward about how I'm revealing too much. But don't be discouraged from leaving a tag, because I still like my ego stroked, to know that yes, people care for me enough to know me, or just curious, or just plain bored. Bored enough to endure through long posts that bore even myself. But like I said, I appreciate it. Though I won't be as thick-skinned as to have glaring Windows popup messages that goes 'Welcome to my blog! Please please please leave a tag! I love you! *muacks*' because I know just how annoying it is, I'm still welcome to all comments, anonymous or not, positive or not. All in all, I guess I'm still the attention whore I am, deal with it.
No, I'm not on alcohol, if that's what you're thinking just cause I'm spilling much more than I usually let on. Though I'm pretty sure coffee at night does almost the same to me, because that would totally explain why I'm bitching so much here tonight.
On to more normal...stuff, I'm getting really excited about SS3 ticket sales tomorrow and I'm praying I won't have to bulldoze through hundreds of xiao mei meis. As much as I'm picking up the habit of cursing endlessly online or even at home, where I'm alone in my room and I spew vulgarities like nobody's business (for one, it actually isn't because I'm only cursing at the computer over something totally awesome or at myself for being the idiot I like to be) I really do not enjoy hearing people curse in my face.
All right, that sounded more 'me' than the whole wall of text thing above it. Pretty much sums up my day, so I'll be off to continue reading. No, not Econs, duh. When have I ever read Econs in this past month? Insensitive people should just shut the fuck up because they don't know how screwed some people (i.e. me) are and we don't exactly want to hear about that measly one mark you lost. Period. Oh and like, how you didn't get to finish a chapter because for fuck's sake, I didn't even start on one. I know, I have only myself to blame and I shouldn't take it out on other people who are genuinely afraid because their entire future depends on this exam. But that was pretty much directed to people who don't even think before saying these things. I think I'm just upset and maybe jealous (haha I hate to admit but maybe Adelbert is right, though I'm jealous about how people have the will and motivation to struggle through while I succumb to the temptations of doing nothing). But I can say this with a clear conscience, that I am not jealous of people who get good results, because I know they deserve it and I admire them for being the strong individuals they are. Like Qian Wen (IDK, just every time I think of this, I'll think of her) and I think she deserves the best scores because she works so hard for them.
I feel like I've got so much more to say but I'm really conscious about how much of a turn off this will look on my blog so I seriously should stop.
And I really love myself, despite the self-hate and self-abuse I enjoy inflicting on myself, not physically, duh, but mentally. Don't let what I type convince you otherwise. Like I said, I like the debate process. Okay, stopping before I start raving again.
|| At 11:31 PM, Jocelyn thought so.♥ ||